My husband ignores me- how to make him adore me
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My husband is not adoring me anymore
I've heard a lot of women saying that " my husband ignores me completely ", which is what bothers women a lot of times. Marriage is a very complicated game and needs a lot of testing and tweaking to make it work. If your marriage has reached a point where your husband ignores you completely, it could be very painful. Your marriage can even come to a point where you both might have to split. So here is what you can do, to save your marriage.
Ive noticed that whenever women feel ignored, a woman is saying that i am unable to regain the love and attention of my husband. May be, the husband is just bored of his wife and is looking out for other women whom he can have an affiar with. It's not uncommon to see these cases. Other times the woman can feel ignored when the husband forgets the wife's birthday, marriage anniversary etc, which could be due to excessive work load merely.
The fact is that a marriage can only work, if both partners are willing to work their relationship by means of communication, love and understanding. If you are not giving your husband enough love, not talking to him or catering to this needs, there is a high possibility that he could be looking out for someone else, which could make things wose for you.
If you really want your husband to adore you and take care of you, start talking care of him. Ask him if he needs something and support him in all his endevours. These days the competition is stiff, and your husband might be too involved in managing his business, job, public relations etc.
So you need to understand that he is just busy, nothing else.
Try to emotionally engage your husband and convince him to take a day off and spend some time with you and the family. On this day, give my all the things that he likes. For example go out for a movie, take dinner together, dance, sing etc. Make him realize that you still love him and want him to do the same to you. I am sure he will appreciate all the things you are doing and will start adoring you even more.
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This was useless - adoring a man too much and catering too much to his needs has resulted in someone who, not only ignores me, but has no respect for me. A man should make at least a little effort to keep his marriage alive. It is impossible to play both sides of the tennis court.
this obviously was written by a man to get women to do what men want. i have done all the pushing for our relationship to work. i have done all the moving, i have quit jobs and left friends, i have changed from serious girl to sex pot to sweet girl just trying to find what he wants. he sits there thinking everything just works without any effort from him. here i am, working full time, taking care of a sick pet, cleaning a four bedroom house with no children in it, while he icefishes with his cousin for a week and a half. this is what happens when you do everything he wants and try to be the "good girlfriend". he just expects it to never end and he thinks you don't want anything in return. this is why playing hard, but not impossible, to get early in the relationship is key. screw doing everything he wants. make sure he also does what you want.
Nothing works....
After all, its all in a man-made world. They always love to be admired, served, and more importantly feel like being boss. They could never understand what does a marriage needs to go longer happily. After a certain period of time, they tend to leave every responsibility of running a marriage to their girl, they don't bother if she is hurt or if she needs anything from him. They always think about what suits them better. If they want anything from their girl, they just take it themselves, but never care about what she wants, as if she has no needs, no emotions... They are always happy if girls quietly serve their needs in both aspects mentally and physically (and even sexually). There could be no way out of running a marriage happily until unless these heartless boys understand that girls too have their own needs, they crech for love and affection, and most of all attention of their spouse.
Boys, if you read it, please try to take a minute out of your life and think about how deeply your wife loves you, how simply she sacrifices everything for you, and what does she needs in return, just a bit of care and affection. IS SHE NOT WORTH OF GETTING THIS MUCH also ????
I think that many men are raised wrong!!!
My husband is a macho Mexicano whose mother pushed all the wrong buttons and programmed him in all the wrong ways so that he is insecure, unable to show emotions, he rather screw himself than admit he's wrong Oh yeah that pride will drag him to hell and back. He can't live life and he won't live life he's too busy undermining every aspect of his relationship, alcoholic, insecure, controlling, macho to the max, but demands all hail him for paying the bills and putting food on the table. Last I heard if a man wants a wife and kids there are a few things that come with the package. The only one that should wag its tail when you feed him is your DOG!!! Obvioulsly nobody told these men the true meaning of what a real husband is!!! ...and before any misconceptions about yours truly I am a woman that had allways given my husband support in every way possible, emotional, economical, spiritual, etc,etc
Hmmmm....interesting. give him everything he wants so he pays attention to you. So if I give nothing...I get nothing. But if I do give, I get? Ok, I think I get it. Give n take? We have different needs and wants so if we fullfill them for each other we become happy.
my hubby do not want to go to the movie or anything suggested above!
he just wants to spend time on his computer or with his nintendo!
and it is not due to work overload as he does not work and that is the way he needs it to be so nothing due to missing his job or anything like that!
and i do things for him every day, not that it helps in any way!
crappy advice!
Umm most often men ignore us when we are paying to much attention to them and not doing our own thing I think. OR they need an excuse to cheat therefore finding a reason to find fault deliberately pissing us off into b*tch mode.
You wanna man to adore you really how to do that?.. Usually in my experience its get the hell over them completely, that is if he's all wrong for you.
If he's right for you NO you don't cater to his every whim and forget your dreams either, NO you make him do his share as well otherwise in his eyes your a desperate doormat which you yes are when you toss your hands up and say oh yes I give up on me because oh now it's ALL about YOU baby, hey your GOD and I'm nothing without you, so maybe you can do better?.. Hell no don't let them start thinking that way because TRUST me they will start thinking that way!
Wrong advice, totally wrong advice here, lol!
Please tell me what should i do, i left city life, good job, gave birth to his daughter, being abused by his mother sister on regular basis, he is sleeping out of my room from last one year, saying baby disturbs my sleep, and now physical abuse has also started, i am worried what should i do, i have a small child in my hand, if i sepreate, i know i can earn bread for me, but my child will suffer, one thing is clear he doesn't loves me but to child he does, i dont want that my child does not get love of her father due to me....
The sad part is that mostly women try to fix the relationship... women google around to find answers. Check your hubbys internet history and find out whats on his mind.
Husband and I been married 40 plus years.
The first 10 years of marriage were OK not great! We only had sex maybe 2 dozen time in those 10 years. Then the next 30 years I have been totally ignored, no sex, intimacy no nothing. My husband has known all along I've been lonely and that I need touching and loving. But all that fell on deaf ears. He has had no desire for me,I'am just a friend to him. I thought all men needed sex but not him he was bound and determined that wasn't going to happen. He moved down stairs so he didn't have to be with me, we rarely speak to each other. He did tell me that sex with me was dull and a chore. So here we are in our 60s hes as happy as can be and I'am just forgotten. I just want to feel someone with strong arms to hold me so I can cry.
Bad advice here.....women, if you are being ignored and neglected, do not waste your energy trying to give him more love. Put the focus on yourself and give yourself what he is not giving you. Read Mama Gena online and follow her advice. Men are like Vulcans from another planet and have very limited emotional skills. Don't expect them to be your best friend or lifelong Prince Charming. This rarely exists. Learn how to create your own happiness with AND without him.
Once they start ignoring you,it will remain that way.We can't control men,they seem to just do what they want to.My husband has always pushed my feelings aside and has been violent and neglectful.
go hump someone else
editor 23 months ago
spell check! so many spelling errors really effects credibility, otherwise there is some good advice offered.